Consider erotica or pornography: It’s fun to let your mind wander, but you don’t always have to use your imagination. For folks with vulvas and vaginas, we need to remember that three out of four women need direct or indirect clitoral stimulation for optimal sexual pleasure," shares Rosara Torrisi, PhD, a licensed clinical social worker and AASECT-certified sex therapist at the Long Island Institute of Sex Therapy in Syosset, New York. Let us introduce you to the “ orgasm gap,” the fact that straight men reportedly climax during sex much more frequently and consistently than straight women. It also boasts magnetic USB charging, so unruly wires won’t get in the way during ‘me’ time, and it’s fitted with a travel lock to avoid any unwanted vibrations on the go. This one is coated in soft and squishy silicone for increased comfort, and has low-frequency vibrations engineered to give you more intense orgasms.

There are wearable devices that clip into underwear, vibrating cock rings, bendable vibrators that provide G-spot stimulation, and bullet models that you can use all over each other’s bodies. You can also form a “V” with your pointer and middle fingers and slide them up and down the sides of the clitoral shaft.Even if you don't use it on your clit you can use it on your back," New York-based sex educator Octavia Leona Kohner suggested. These elegant clamps are adjustable, so they should suit nervous newbies and seasoned sadomasochists alike. The U-shaped vibrator has two arms – the smaller one sits on your clitoris while the longer arm sits inside the vagina to stimulate the G-spot. I love [this SpareParts harness] because it’s super versatile, friendly to lots of body types and sizes, metal-free, and very comfortable for both the wearer and the other partner/partners,” Ori Nelsen, PsyD and founder of San Francisco Intimacy and Sex Therapy Center, previously told SELF. The glans of the clitoris is about the size of a pearl/pea, but the structure itself is much more complex and extensive.

A top-pick G-spot vibrator (like these two from Fun Factory and Dame Products) will target this area.To up the ante, you can hold a vibrator against the pump, and the vibrations will transmit through the whole area.

Toys like the Womanizer use rhythmic pulses of air to create a clitoral sensation that’s somewhere between sucking, tapping, and vibration. For targeted clitoral stimulation, some of the best clitoris sex toy options out there are clitoral vibrators and clitoral stimulators. Though the toy can be controlled via app, Finn appreciates its remote’s squeeze function: “The harder you grip the base of the remote, the more intense the vibration. The best-selling Dame Fin can be used around or tethered between fingers, or sans tether for more movement and exploration.I got mine over a decade ago and it literally hasn't left my nightstand since then (except when I travel! It has an impressive seven vibration modes and eight levels of intensity, putting you in total control of your experience. This one from Lovehoney has a rotating shaft for G-spot stimulation, while the vibrator's signature “bunny ears” make for mind-blowing clitoral satisfaction.